What if every obstacle in our lives is actually the homeopathic substance that stimulates for us the deep healing our souls need to grow?
Homeopathy is based on the idea that “like cures like.” That is, if a substance causes a symptom in a healthy person, giving the person a very small amount of the same substance may cure the illness. In theory, a homeopathic dose enhances the body’s normal healing and self-regulatory processes.
If we saw obstacles as medicine , something that actually enhances our soul’s healing and self regulatory processes, how would we approach our obstacles?
A friend of mine admitted once that she had a pattern of falling for people who wasn’t “good for her”, who left her feeling lonely and unsupported. She was down on herself about that.
I postulated that in every once of those circumstances, she was led closer and closer to her own truth, that in falling into these “destructive patterns” stimulated her to heal even deeper and feel even deeper the parts of herself that she had previously hidden from herself. Stuff that would have remained buried and therefore foundation-ally holding her back from a more fulfilled life, now comes up to be resolved because it shows up in the “obstacle” of unfulfilling relationships. As we conversed about her obstacle, she came to realize that there are ways she had been disconnected from knowing her own needs, areas in her psyche that were numb to feeling and therefore, there a disconnect in herself that prevented her from connecting with others in a way that could feel supportive. It kept her from asking for what she needed from others ( since she couldn’t connect to certain needs) and it also kept her from discerning who could support her. Basically something that appeared at first to be about others, she now realizes has to do with her internal relationship with self.
Her obstacle led her to her deeper truths. Basically, challenge and pain awakens us to deeper truth because it cuts through the layer of avoidance and complacency that is so easy for humans to fall into. With pain, there’s no longer the option to avoid parts of ourselves that are wounded, that are not whole. Everything that hurts us bring us to a clearer awareness of what is beneath the pain. Some of us has to keep repeating a cycle of having the same obstacles, to keep learning through pain and then burn through to the bottom of what the issue is really about, while others dive straight into pain and process it and come through the other side quickly . We each have our individual patterns of how we grow. There is no one way to grow.
“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.” Anais Nin
When I attempt to explain to others my strategy for diving into the hardest obstacles and getting to the other side of growth, many people are aghast. When I say I run towards my patterns with eyes wide open, I’m often met with worried looks. It can seem unintuitive and perhaps masochistic to head towards your difficulties, to do the things you’re not already good at doing, to run into the fire of transformation rather than away from it. And yet, it’s what I have been doing for many years. It assures for me, that I’m facing what I need to face, that I’m harnessing the gift of the obstacle in front of me, rather than repeatedly recreating that pattern in a new relationship , a new job or a new place of living.
Well, sometime I do take the easier path. I run away from the obstacle, I hide or try to stay the same. Sometimes I simply choose not to grow right now. That’s OK too, it is always my choice. I no longer see this as a right or a wrong choice, but simply a choice. Every choice has a consequence. There are multiple paths to get to our soul’s destinations and some of us are very creative travelers.
When I make the choice to face something that is difficult for me to face, it is a choice that can both exciting, overwhelming, and exhausting.
I would liken it to playing a video game and finally getting to the bonus level, it’s the most exciting and exhausting place to be. You keep playing, you keep “dying”, and then finally, you beat that level, completely exhausted and exhilarated. It feels really good. And then, of course, you’re on to another level. It’s basically this way for the rest of your life 🙂 Once I figured out that the next level of challenge will always be there, I relaxed and gave myself time. It isn’t about getting through each level as fast as I can anymore. It’s about exploring the scenery, having fun, and yet inevitably every level has a “boss” or “monster” that you have to face. If you don’t face it, often it stalks you ( just like in real life, your problems catch up to you ). It often requires all your resources to face the “monster” and then, you get a reward animation that is full of happiness and elation once you defeat it. And then I realized that the game is enhanced when you bring Love to everything.. Love of self, love of others, self compassion and compassion that everyone around you is playing their own unique game of their soul’s design, and doing the best they can. While it appears that we are playing the same game, each person has their own very unique path and set of circumstances that their soul designed. So Love isn’t about just getting what you need from each other ( because that is often an “obstacle”) , it is about accepting that you and the others are well, sacred mirrors that reflect and reveal what game you’re actually playing. And everyone you meet is actually an ally in helping you get through your game and down to your soul’s true path, no matter how it feels at the time.
If we knew that we are all soul allies with one another, would we be nicer to each other and love one another more?
Every obstacle I ever overcame was a lesson in perseverance and hard work. The work of self understanding and taking responsibility for my self care. Every obstacle taught me that facing what needs to be faced is ultimately better than running away because I learned more deeply about myself and had to access my inner resources in a deeper way in order to overcome the obstacle.
It’s not an accident that every hero’s journey has lots of obstacles that has to overcome, that every heroine faces some kind of test before she can come “home”, and get the reward whether it’s fortune, love, or spiritual wisdom. Odysseus, one of the most well know epic poems , written by Homer involves a man who journeys for ten years back home after the Trojan war. Along the way, he meets people, fights monsters and learns much about himself before finally returning home to his loved ones. His adventures and trials made him a deeper, wiser person. He becomes a true hero through facing his trials. In the myth of Psyche and Eros, Psyche must face a number of tests of the soul, designed by Aphrodite, the goddess of Love, before she can be reunited with her love, Eros. Our myths and favorite stories, are based on overcoming “seemingly insurmountable” obstacles to burn away what is not the true self, and to sharpen and then rise to the potential that every human soul carries inside. Soul potential that awaits awakening. The Soul uses obstacles to wake us up.
Obstacles are homeopathic because they serve to deliver the healing the soul needs to evolve.
They are Life Medicine.